There are few people in your life that influence you more than your parents. When you have to have cremation services in Reading, PA for your mother or father, it can feel like nothing is ever going to be the same again. And it’s true. Your life is forever changed. As you walk through the services and your grief, here are a few things you can expect to change in your life so you can prepare yourself for them as they hit.
You May Be The Eldest
When your parent passes away, if your other parent has already gone, you may end up being the matriarch or patriarch of the family. You could be the oldest and everyone looks to you to make big decisions, including those around your mother or father’s final service plans. You will have a new responsibility and you may not really be ready for it. Even if you have been taking care of your parents for years, finally being the oldest one in the family can feel strange.
The Kid Becomes The Parent
When you have a living parent, you are still a child to someone, even if you are in your 40s or even older. You’re someone’s child and that someone still treats you as such, even in small ways. When your parent dies, you no longer feel like a kid in any way. You are the parent—the one who has to take care of everything—instead of the one being taken care of. It’s a hard shift to make and you may not like how it feels.
You Grow Up
Even though you are likely already an adult, when you lose a parent, a part of you grows up that wasn’t quite fully grown yet—out o necessity. Losing someone that close to you leaves a mark and you will grow up in a different way than you did before. You might see the world differently and, because of your grief, come out the other end a stronger person. Most people lose their parents at some point and the process helps you to mature and grow into who you have to be beyond their life.
It’s never easy to lose anyone you love. Losing a parent can feel especially hard. When that person who raised you and took care of you is no longer with you, grief is very heavy. The professionals at Bean Funeral Homes & Crematory, Inc. can help you organize their cremation services in Reading, PA so you can honor their memory in a special manner. Visit us at 6 Fairlane Rd Reading, PA 19606 and we can show you around and let you in on how things operate. You can also call us at (610) 779-2800 and we can answer questions or set you up with a time to come in and talk about the details. We’re here for you through this hard time. We can even offer you grief resources to help with what you’re going through.